Today, we will form opinions of people.
Today, people will form opinions about us.
If we’re honest, we often don’t like the opinions people form about us, but in reality, those opinions are not without a reason.
Opinions aren’t random…if you don’t believe me, ask why you have formed an opinion of someone else?
Is it not based on what you have seen, perceived or heard about that very person?
Now admittedly, we can form wrong opinions of others because we judged them wrongly or decided to base an opinion on hearsay, a lie or mere gossip.
I wonder…can you change what people’s opinions of you are?
The answer is ‘yes.’
Take for instance, the opinion that you are stingy rather than generous.
How did people form that opinion?
The answer is simple…you are stingy!
In one sense, people’s thoughts about us don’t matter and yet they do, as their opinions are really a gauge to let you know how you come across to others.
Over the 30 plus years of our marriage, both Gillian and myself have at times said things to each other that we have later regretted.
One such conversation would go something like this…”When you said that you hurt me” to which the reply came back…”but I didn’t say it like you heard it”…to which the reply comes back…”I can’t help how I heard it, but you can help how you said it!”
As painful as those conversations are, there is a great truth contained in them – you can’t help how you hear things, but you can help how you say things.
If people have formed a wrong opinion of you, don’t be too harsh with them, as they have based it on what they saw, heard and perceived about you.
Take a moment today to listen to yourself in an unguarded moment – you may be surprised to find that you don’t like how you come across either.
Always be humble enough to admit that you got it wrong and be willing to change; you may be the last person to see the change, but others will soon spot it and be happy to review their opinions of you.
This Christmas time, ask yourself, what would you like to be known for and then give yourself a personality makeover…and if you think you’re perfect, ask a close friend to tell you the truth.
Proverbs 27:6 Wounds from a friend can be trusted, but an enemy multiplies kisses.
A daily devotion for a better way of living.