Fresh Hope – 5th August 2016

I dedicate Fresh Hope today to all those who are married, those thinking of getting married, planning to get married, wish they were married and those that wish they weren’t.

Get yourself a date night with your spouse!

Start planning now.

How many of you have outlived the honeymoon stage of your marriage and find yourself trapped in a mundane existence with someone that once excited you?

Have you ever thought about what life together will be like after the children have grown up and left home?

Will you have anything to say to each other, or will you have long since forgotten how to date each other again, with no hope of re-igniting the passions that once burned within you?

Take heart…get yourself a date night with your spouse.

Plan it weekly – just as you plan anything else.

Sit down together for a meal; a ready meal, a microwave meal, liver and onions…any meal.

Go out occasionally just the two of you. No kids, no friends, no in-laws or out-laws allowed.

Have a bath, do your hair and make yourself look like you’ve bothered, just like in days gone by when you were dating.

Watch a movie, read magazines, chat and snuggle up, but don’t answer the phone or the door bell.
With divorce rates so high, recent statistics show that only 4% of married couples have a date night once a week.

21% plan a night together once a month, with a further 21% prioritising their time with each other just once in every 2-3 months.

Every 4-6 months is enough for 18% of marrieds, but the biggest group of all it stands that 36% of marrieds have one date night less than twice a year.

You could well say ‘that’s plenty for me with the way my spouse is’, but maybe the reason it’s like that is because you no longer cherish what you did when you first fell in love.

The top 5 things that cause marriages to break down are:

Chores

Money

Sex

Work

Children

No one on earth can solve all those problems for you but I can help you to fall in love all over again, and to see what you now count as a curse that once you counted a blessing.

Stop treating each other just like some kind of inconvenient object that lives in the same house, and start to plan to fall back in love again by planning your next date night.

Someone once said ‘It’s easier to act your way into a feeling than to feel your way into an action.’

So, if you’ve lost those tingly feelings for each other, you’re normal…but now start to surprise each other by acting your way back into love again.

Pastor Mark

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