Fresh Hope – 18th August 2016

Happily married or not so?

Single, looking and hopeful?

Engaged and getting ready for the big day?

Too young for all of this? You won’t be soon.

No matter who you are – advice that’s not appropriate now is always good to store up for a day when it is.

One of the secrets to a great marriage is to know the difference between a good fight and a bad fight.

The Bible doesn’t say don’t fight, no more than it says don’t get angry. It says fight the ‘good’ fight and ‘be angry and sin not’.

Bad fights lead to irreparable damage, unforgiveness, hurt and divorce and sound like this…”I’ll never forgive you”, “you always say that”, @you are never considerate.”

Good fights lead to us becoming stronger people, closer to our spouse, happier in our relationships and being well balanced in our marriage.

There is no such thing as a marriage without conflict.

If you’re going to fight, learn to fight good.

Ask what you can learn from your differences.

Start a competition today as to who can say ‘sorry’ first.

Instead of using words like ‘you always say that’ learn to replace them with words like ‘ when you said that you hurt me’, or ‘when you did that, you made me feel in that moment very unloved’.

Don’t generalise – be specific about things that get on your nerves.

Most importantly, don’t let one day turn into another whilst still carrying over anger about something.

Start each new day with a clean slate and refuse to go to sleep without dealing with it. Break the stoney silence with one simple word, no matter how difficult it is to say it – ‘sorry’; then follow through with the words ‘please forgive me’.

Fight good.

Ephesians 4:26-27 ‘In your anger do not sin’: do not let the sun go down while you are still angry, and do not give the devil a foothold.

Pastor Mark

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