PWhen you are so close to something, you will tend to do one of two things…
You will notice every minute detail – You notice all the flaws with your spouse, you notice only the problems with your children and you see all the things that are wrong with the place where you live.
But, the other side to this for some is that you will notice nothing – you don’t see the dirty wallpaper in the lounge, the untidy cupboard, your wife’s new hairdo or the fact that your garden is like a jungle and is making the neighbours mad.
Either one of these dilemmas is often the result of living life in isolation.
Isolation is having no one to bounce things off and no one to show you what you really cant see. Being accountable isn’t a popular word, as it means that you have to include others in things that you would prefer to be a loner about.
Just imagine how many people could have been saved from doing weird stuff, if they’d have simply invited one or two good people into their lives.
Now, having too many opinions is not good for you, as you end up not being able to make any kind of a decision; choosing wallpaper is never best done by a committee. However, there is also safety in a multitude of counsellors…Proverbs 11 v 14
‘Where no counsel is, the people fall: but in the multitude of counsellers there is safety.’
Having good people around you is maybe something that you’ve never had or never wanted, but it’s not only advisable, it’s totally necessary.
If you were thinking of buying a home in an area unknown to you, it would be foolish to go ahead without asking a few questions to a few people that live there. Yet, so often we move ahead into unknown territory with our very lives without seeking the counsel of good people around us.
I use a little saying with some of the guys closest to me in leadership, and it goes like this….’I’m not necessarily asking you to give me permission, but I’m asking you to give me perspective.’ In other words, if I’m determined that I should climb that mountain, don’t stop my plan but advise me as the best way to carry it out. That will of course mean at times, that their advice will cause you to completely rethink your plan, or even cancel it all together.
None of us have the answer alone, but together we have the answer.
If you don’t have good people in your life, then simply start by asking one or two to have a coffee with you when you most need help. They will not only help with your problem, they will help you gain more good friends.
Ecclesiastes 4:9-12 Two are better than one, because they have a good return for their labour: if either of them falls down, one can help the other up. But pity anyone who falls and has no one to help them up. Also, if two lie down together, they will keep warm. But how can one keep warm alone? Though one may be overpowered, two can defend themselves. A cord of three strands is not quickly broken.
A daily devotion for a better way of living.