Proverbs 13:20…’Become wise by walking with the wise; hang out with fools and watch your life fall to pieces.’
You and I can never be the kind of person we were intended to be by doing life on our own. Some of the craziest and most dangerous people on the planet are loners. Having various ‘layers’ of relationships in our lives keeps us from going off the rails.
Last weekend we all had to change our watches and clocks to fall in line with daylight savings. So many people got it the wrong way round and instead of putting the clocks back, put them forwards, with some forgetting altogether!
As you woke on Sunday morning, how did you know that the time you had on your watch and phone was the correct one? What if you believed the time you had was right, but in actual fact you were wrong? Everything from thereon would be wrong. You’d either be early or late for everything. It’s almost guaranteed that you relied on someone else close to you to make sure that you had the right time.
In the same way, we all need people who are teaching us, sharing their lives with us, investing in us, and encouraging us, otherwise we could easily be going off on a tangent, believing that we were right when actually we were completely wrong. In fact, to be all that God calls you to be, you need to learn from at least four different kinds of people.
Mentors – These are your coaches. You can have more than one. No one can teach you everything you need to know. One person will teach you in one area. Another person will teach you about something else.
Role models – These are people who are already doing or have already done what you want to do. Many of the skills you’ve learned in your life, you’ve learned by watching others.
Partners – You need co-workers and colleagues who are in your profession, people to support and challenge you to stay on track through your life.
Friends – Friends don’t necessarily help you with your goals. They’re just friends. They love you no matter what you do. You can mess up, and they still love you. A friend walks into your life when everyone else walks out. That’s when you know who your friends are.
Trying to live life solo isn’t just lonely. It works against God’s design for us. On the first pages of the Bible, we read that after God created man, He said…’it is not good for man to be alone’.
Loneliness is not just something that you experience because you don’t like your own company, but is a sign that being alone is not right for you. You weren’t created to do life alone.
The craving you have for others in your life is there for a reason, but many people make the mistake of waiting for people to come into their lives, and although that does happen, relationships at each level are there to be pursued. I pursued my wife!!
For example, invite someone that you respect to be your mentor. When you find that person, buy them a coffee, respect the hour that they give you occasionally, and then ask questions. Don’t fall into the trap whereby you feel it’s your chance to talk to them about you for a full 60 minutes. A mentor doesn’t need to hear about you so much as you need to hear from them. In the main, keep quiet, make notes and learn.
Make your goal in life to have ‘layers of relationships’.
Who do you need right now in your life? Pursue that relationship and allow God to bring about some amazing connections to take you to another level. It may take time, and not everyone is the right ‘fit’ for you, but God knows who you need, and when you need them, just be open and He will make sure that the right people come your way.
A daily devotion for a better way of living.