One of the greatest mistakes that we are all prone to make is to talk too much and listen too little! Getting the balance right between these two things is of utmost importance for your personal growth.
If there’s one person that we all love to hate, it’s the person that doesn’t know when to shut up. Second in line only to this person, is the one that believes that every opportunity for a conversation is to make themselves look or sound good. How strange is it that those that need to listen the most, talk the most? However, when you think about it, it’s not that strange at all – they have become deaf to anyone else’s voice apart from their own, and have therefore rendered themselves absent of all sense and wisdom. As a result, you will observe that the people who have the most serious character flaws don’t change — they rarely listen to what needs to be said.
How many people make the mistake of meeting with someone for advice. They then feel that it’s their big moment to off load everything that’s going on in their world, when really it’s their big opportunity to listen to the wise words of advice being given.
Over the years, I’ve tried to teach that one of the simplest and yet most life-enhancing questions that you and I could ever ask someone that you look up to, or even aspire to be like, is this one: ‘Is there anything that you need to say to me?’
When that question comes from you and you are willing to not only hear what is said, but also take on board what is said, then you will be on the fast track to change and growth like no other.
Now, only ask the question if you’re willing to take on board the answer, and only ask the question if you are serious about change and personal growth!
Make a conscious decision to seek out wise counsel from those who are ahead of you, and determine to spend 75% of the time listening and just 25% talking.
Don’t waste your life talking about yourself, instead enlarge your life by listening.
Proverbs 20:19 ‘…avoid anyone who talks too much’.
A daily devotion for a better way of living.